Do You Think My Kid Has ADHD?

Parents often ask me if I think their children have ADHD since they just can’t sit still.  ADHD certainly is common enough.  Running around instead of sitting still, however, isn’t the only symptom of ADHD.

Attention deficit disorder in children, also referred to as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, refers to children who often have difficulty focusing their attention. They have trouble listening, remembering things, staying still, and/or waiting their turn. Their school success, education, and learning are affected.

Psychologists and psychiatrists use the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Addition, DSM-IV) to diagnose ADHD. According to the DSM-IV, Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder is a “persistent pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that is more frequent and severe than is typically observed in individuals at a comparable level of development.”

Some of the symptoms must have been present in the child prior to age seven, and some must be present in at least two settings (e.g. at home and at school). Because several conditions mimic ADHD behavior, parents need to consult a qualified professional to determine just what’s going on.

When a child isn’t hyperactive but still can’t focus and may act impulsively, the precise term is “ADD.”  However, “ADD” and “ADHD” are often used interchangeably.  “ADHD” is most commonly used today to refer loosely to all “ADHD” and “ADD” symptoms.  For that reason, this article uses “ADHD” to refer to both “ADD” and “ADHD.”

Many parents feel that their child has ADHD, when in fact they do not. And teachers sometimes feel that all the kids in their class have ADHD. But having an attentional issue doesn’t mean that your child has ADHD. In fact, most people have trouble staying focused on what they are doing if the phone rings, if people are talking nearby, if traffic is rushing past the window, or if music is playing. Many sounds or events can distract all of us from our work.

And it’s even harder to focus if we didn’t get enough sleep, are stressed out, or skipped breakfast. Worse yet, if we replaced breakfast with a donut and a can of pop.

So if your child can’t stay on track, it doesn’t mean that she automatically has an attentional disorder. In today’s busy world, a certain amount of distractibility is normal, if not common.

However, if your child is continually distracted, by even the smallest stimuli, he may have ADHD. Discuss this with your pediatrician and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist if your pediatrician suggest stimulant drugs. (Pediatricians are not specialists in these drugs; psychiatrists are.)

And don’t be alarmed if your child is diagnosed with ADHD or with some form of an attention deficit disorder. There are many famous people diagnosed with ADHD who have became quite successful in life despite (or maybe because of) their attentional difficulties.

ADHD Symptoms:


  • Has difficulty paying close attention to details or makes careless mistakes on homework or tests.
  • Has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities.
  • Does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.
  • Does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork.
  • Has difficulty organizing tasks.
  • Avoids schoolwork for long periods of time.
  • Often misplaces or loses assignments or books.
  • Becomes distracted easily.
  • Seems to be fidgeting all the time.
  • Has difficulty remaining seated.


In order to make a diagnosis of ADHD, the DSM-IV lists even more symptoms and requires a “yes” answer for at least six behaviors in a list of nine. Obviously it’s a complex diagnosis. Because your child doesn’t pay attention to his homework, or she can’t seem to organize her desk probably doesn’t indicate ADHD.

Good parenting suggests helping your child with homework and organizing skills before assuming he’s abnormal or has a disorder.


  1. mrs. cappie james says:

    my grandson has a learning diability, and i really need help for him he is in special ed. he strugglers through his work, and i want him to do and be the best he can be i think he is ashame whenever he don’t know the work, and i am on a fixed income and dont have the money to pay for a tutor. he is in middle school. i really need help please. thanks and god bless

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